Managers repeatedly disrespect employees' privacy thinking closed-door etiquette doesn’t apply to them double down when confronted: ‘Whatever you’re saying is management’s business’

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Etai Eshet • Editor
Jan 16, 2025 10:00 AM EST

The modern workplace has birthed a fascinating species of boss who treats their title as a free pass to bypass social norms. This special genus, known by many names, is a fascinating breed developed over decades of corporate evolution.

A prime example of this breed was recently spotted in a medical clinic, where three purebred specimens demonstrated textbook species-oriented behavior. While common office workers displayed standard door-respecting traits, these magnificent creatures showcased their breed's signature move: the unsolicited entrance.

While regular staff members respect the basic courtesy of knocking before entering a shared office, this trio bursts in unannounced during private conversations, HR discussions, and personal health chats. Their defense boils down to a masterclass in managerial logic: they claim knocking is unnecessary for those without private offices, and that all conversations automatically fall under their need-to-know jurisdiction.

These wonderful members of the corporate human kingdom are recognized by many nicknames and aliases, none of which is "employee's best friend."

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  • Managers think closed door etiquette doesn’t apply to them.

    "why would we knock to come into your room?"
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  • I work for a medical clinic. I do mainly administrative work for the finance side of the clinic, handling incoming invoices, monitoring the clinic's credit cards for fraudulent charges etc etc.
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  • The Border Crossie possesses remarkably keen senses, specifically tuned to detect personal conversations from up to 100 feet away. Their powerful St. Barge-nard hearing can pick up the faintest whisper of a private HR discussion, while their highly developed nose can smell career uncertainty and medical leave requests through multiple walls.

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  • I share an office with a member of the management team and he's frankly lovely. We have music playing and can balance a friendly discourse with our jobs.
    via AemondsMissingEye

  • The Labra-door-dles are known for their explosive acceleration, capable of reaching maximum barging speed in under 0.5 seconds when sensing confidential information. The most impressive Always-There-ier feature remains their uncanny timing—a genetic trait that allows them to crash through doors precisely at the most sensitive moment of any conversation.

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  • Every member of the organisation knocks on our door to come in. Not just knocking, but actually waiting to be shouted in to come in. Except our senior partner, practice manager and the deputy practice manager.
    via AemondsMissingEye
  • They just walk in unannounced and start immediately talking about whatever it is they want without checking if we're able to discuss it at the time.
    via AemondsMissingEye

  • Physical characteristics of the Pekingnose include an unusually developed sense of entitlement and a complete absence of the boundary recognition gland found in normal humans. Their vocal cords are specially adapted to override ongoing phone calls, and their neck muscles are strengthened from years of reading computer screens from behind employees' shoulders dubbing the brees as the great Bosso Bargentino.

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  • I raised it today as a problem because the member of management I share an office with sometimes has to have private discussions with staff hr
    via AemondsMissingEye
  • wise. I sometimes am having a hard conversation with him about my own health or sometimes we're on the phone and it's not appropriate.
    via AemondsMissingEye
  • I was met with a response from the other managers of 'well we don't knock for people who don't have an office so why would we knock to come into your room? Anything that you're discussing is as members of management would want to know about anyway.'
    via AemondsMissingEye
  • Am I being too ridiculous to think that's over the line and a clear lack of respect for any sort of privacy?
    via AemondsMissingEye
  • Bad Boba Bod I worked at a clinic that at the time didn't have a room for the authorization staff. Our "office" was supposed to be another exam room but didn't have a sink in it like the others so myself and two teammates were crammed in there.
    via Bad Boba Bod
  • We were calling insurances, so plenty of PHI/PII out in the open if the door was ajar. Our billing manager with control-freak levels of Mommie Dearest hated when we closed the door.
    via Bad Boba Bod
  • Didn't matter that patients would walk by and could hear everything we said. She needed to keep an eye on us anytime she felt like walking by.
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  • Yeah, the entitlement is rampant with some people.
    via Bad Boba Bod
  • Moontoya One of those door stoppers a foot behind the closed door You'll get up and move it before hollering come in
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  • No knocking and barging in, the door will hit the stopper wedge and stick, the barging with the door will collide Only takes looking like an a to encourage knocking
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  • Sensitive_Hat_9871 Before I rerired I was a manager. I told both my staff and my superiors I had an open-door policy. If my door was open, feel free to come in. I said I also have a strict closed-door policy. If my door is closed, don't bother me the door is closed for a reason.
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  • The closed-door policy was for reasons similar to those stated in other comments here: having hard/difficult/sensitive conversations with staff, on a conference call, etc.
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  • Yes, it's just plain courtesy. For the most part my staff and superiors respected my closed-door policy.
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  • VainTwit the best manager I ever had made it his priority that no one disturb us. he ran interference to intercept phone calls, circumvented unnecessary meetings, etc. it takes a good 3hr uninterrupted stretch to get good work done. constant interruptions just resets the clock and
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  • sabotages productivity. complex work requires concentration like in a library. most managers are busy fussing about how important they think they are. even if there were no door, or walls, you shouldn't be disturbed while you are working. make it about being the finances error free, not about privacy. it IS their practice. they own you. but they are shooting themselves in the foot by disturbing you
    via VainTwit
  • McDuchess They are wildly entitled. And equally wildly wrong. To the point of being legally endangering the clinic if you choose to complain about HIPAA violations.
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  • Which you totally should do, if they walk in on you discussing your own personal health with your manager.
    via McDuchess

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